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About

My name is Neicee J born Tahneisha Plowden from Lorain, Ohio. I am a 46-year-old new Author, a wife, mother of two as well as a grandmother. I was born and raised in Lorain all my life. I was raised by both parents and lived with my sister Kia but her nickname is “bug.”  We lived on the same street all of our lives until we got old enough to move out on our own. I also have an older brother named James that is my father’s biological son that he had prior to meeting my mother. I did not find out about me having another sibling until the early ’90s. I attended only two schools in Lorain County. Hawthorne-Boone Elementary and Junior High and Lorain High School where I graduated in 1993. I became a first-time mother at the age of nineteen, giving birth to my daughter and my son at the age of twenty-one. My life from a young age to adulthood was very trying for me. I had been molested by family members and other people of no relation. I went through the hurt of being in a toxic relationship that caused me physical, mental and verbal abuse. That led to me becoming someone that I know that God did not intend for me to be. I had lost jobs, tried committing suicide, hurt those that loved me, ruined relationships, and was just a person of doubt and no faith. Though God had been there the whole time, he was definitely testing my faith and my belief in him and myself. 
It took me until about 2009 to really understand what God was doing within my life. He was teaching me how to be obedient and to lean on him and his word and to just let him be God. I fought so much throughout the years thinking that I had all the answers when in fact I did not.

 

Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.

Proverbs 3:5-6

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Eventually, after leaning on The Lord, I had finally felt my life beginning to shift. In 2013 I met my current husband. I decided to leave Lorain in 2014, moving to the south, Greensboro, NC to be exact. My daughter and I moved here to make a better life for ourselves leaving my son behind to be with his father. I married my third husband in 2014 and became a first-time grandmother in 2016 of my grandson Dakota and my second grandchild Alaya in 2020. I  became an after-school teacher in 2017 and then received my Early Childhood Education Credentials from Stanly Community College in Albemarle, NC and taught preschool-age children as well. In this field, I wanted to make a difference in children’s lives and let them know that they can make a difference in the world. That there is a place for us all in this world and to know better is to do better. Currently, I am an Entertainment Blogger (hearsaywithneiceej.com) and a first-time Author. I am currently working on a second book entitled “In too deep.”  My ultimate goal is to reach those who have experienced the life of chaos when it comes to molestation and, or physical and mental abuse. There are so many people, especially young adults who have gone through the same thing and have no one to turn to. So I hope to help someone understand that there is no reason to be afraid. That keeping silent will not only damage you internally but will damage those around you that you love most. I am also looking to raise money to open my own daycare center in the future. To give children a place to feel safe and loved when they are not with their parents and to continue to teach them and give them the tools to be the best they can be when they are away from their school. I want to be able to leave behind something for my children and grandchildren so they can continue to be a change in the world. Other than this, I love to cook, travel, do hair and spend time with my family, especially my grandkids. My husband and I like to take mini-vacations and do random things together that allow us to enjoy life together while we can. 
Every day I continue to pray for all of those that are struggling with internal and external hurt and that faith plays a huge part in the healing process of those going through something. I look forward to being a part of the change in the lives of others.